Incorporating "20 Things Mentally Strong People DON'T Do'...

The recent death of Scotty has opened my eyes to some things that I inadvertently "turned a cheek to".  While trying to be a supportive friend/sister to his wife (she is like a lil sister to me) I realized that I didn't let myself heal properly after my mother died. I was 25, had never experienced death (I didn't know my grandparents), and didn't know of resources available for grieving.  I dealt with her death in a very destructive, rash way.  I'm VERY thankful that she is seeking guidance that I never sought, looking for positive changes for a happier future, and blessed that she is sharing her journey with me.

Fast forward to yesterday when someone from my Advocare group posted the article "20 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" on Facebook (full/detailed article here).  I read the article and thought about sis and I's conversations.  Long story short is that I realize that I have dwelled too long in the past, I often refuse to remove myself from my comfort zone, constantly think of how I or something I want to do will fail (without even trying), and give into my fears (to name a few LOL).  Don't get me wrong, I haven't spent all of the last 18 yrs this way BUT more often than not I have.  Closing myself off to the real world is/was easy and a lot less painful.  If  you don't put yourself out there you can't get hurt.  Of course being this way I've probably missed out on some good times.

Anyhow, I thought I would work this article into my life.  While I DON'T consider myself mentally weak, I do KNOW that there is room for improvement.  I'm almost always open to learning and in recent years I have occasionally put into work what I've learned (I've certainly become more patient/understanding). :O) The Advocare guy posted it so that folks would use it as a resource to become a "Champion within Advocare"....and I want to be a champion in life, not just Advocare.

So I am sure that you went and checked out the article and that you'll help me with the list.  Of the list of 20 things I am going to focus on #1 (Dwell on the past), #2 (Remain in comfort zone), #6 (letting others make decisions for me),  and #17 (giving into fears) first.  I chose these four because I feel that of the list of things these are my "worst" mental offenders.

The first item I am going to tackle is #2, comfort zone.  I hate public exercise classes. I'm not real keen on overly happy, smiling, chipper people (sorry LOL-I think it's because happy doesn't yet come naturally to me). My neighbor (who almost always seems happy, smiley, perky) teaches a 25 min "Core and more" at the YMCA on Tues/Thurs. So Tuesday night I'll be heading over to the YMCA to participate in her class. I might even stand in the middle of the class verse the back of the class!!

TTYL....Tori

True or False?

found this blog post on "How big is your fear"....

Part of an article reads "If you're getting ready to get ready, you're just making excuse to protect yourself from the thing you fear most: not fear of failure but the fear of success."

and the article got me to thinking...I'm a type A person (trying to break loose) who typically has a plan a, b, and c.  I'm continuously in plan and preparation mode for health, exercise, and creating income selling advocare..."getting ready to be ready" as the author of the post (Randy Gage) mentions...

and then I got to thinking that I was on the phone with a friend earlier talking about what I want from Advocare and things I was doing to "get ready to be ready" to introduce Advocare to others and I mentioned that I'm "just not a wing it kind of person these days, I've got to prep and organize."

I probably know the answer this but, is there such a thing as "preparing too much"? Is there such a thing of doing too much "getting ready to be ready"? The article/blog post mentions that problems arise (from "getting ready to be ready") when you've missed you're opportunity for what you were getting ready for.

I suppose there really is no such thing as being too prepared but there is such a thing as not putting into play what your preparing for (ie reading about proper techniques to do something but never doing that something--just continuously reading about proper technique).

cliff notes of what I'm taking from said article: shit and get off the pot!

Tori's A to Z Aspirations

Making lists; moving forward

So I caught the bug (finally) and I'm feel mentally and emotionally on track. I've made all sorts of lists (including a training schedule for the Philly Half Marathon) and pulled out some resource books. I'm not just making lists but also taking notes. I know that nothing is ever set in stone and that one must be patient and flexible. I've also come to realize and appreciate those who have sent their well wishes and support to me and that they are sincere in their words (and sometimes actions). When your "glasses are fogging" you never see the sincerity in others gestures nor how important it is to have some kind of support system. Life can be so difficult; why make the journey alone if you don't have to?

 OK...so I'm all in on the AdvoCare....I'm a bit nervous because I'm not an "in your face you HAVE to try this" kind of gal. I also have issues talking verbally. I don't know the products like the back of the hand (ie what ingredients are in the item) I just know the products work. So anyway...there is a 5k coming up that I am going to sponsor in hopes of gaining exposure and potentially customers. It should be a win win (Lord forgive me) because the donation will be a tax deduction and by "sponsoring" I will be able to put my "logo" and contact information in the pamplet/booklet about the 5k, on the shirt, and a flyer in the race packet bag. for those who have picked up race packet-do you even look at the papers in the bag? I know I do but they've never been about a product; they've normally been about another race. Am I screwed because I don't have the funds to put a "trinket" in the race bag? here's my logo/info...you're ideas of what I can put in the race packet that won't break the bank.

P.S. and I think I may switch to bike races...to see if it's as much fun now as it was when I was a kid.

laziness has struck again...

November is creeping up quickly. I am supposed to be training for a half marathon but I lack that special something something to get me moving in the right direction.  I would love to say that "fear of commitment" is holding me back but that would be a flat out lie (besides-I've already signed up for the race, booked a hotel, AND actively been looking for flights).  when it comes to training, I'm lazy pure and simple. I wish I had a cure for this laziness but alais I'm empty handed. tricks of the trade to cure the laziness is welcome. 

speaking of lazy...look whose laying down on guard duty!!

Dad has had 3 chemo treatments...his 4th is scheduled for Monday the 22nd.  He seems to be one of the lucky few (knock on wood) and is having minor side effects thus far with the treatments.  He seems to be in a good place NOW mentally/emotionally and I'm thankful for that. of course, I am not seeing him on a daily basis so they may be hiding something from me.

In preparation of the anticipated furlough days starting Oct 1st for govt employees in my organization I recently asked myself "how can I earn money now (and continuously)  so that when I lose pay then I can still pay my bills?" I need(ed) something flexible and something I believe in. I was not having luck finding an online teaching job (I have no teaching experience) so I've opted to be an Independent Distributor for AdvoCare health and wellness products (energy enhancement, mental clarity, weight management  etc). The "start up" fee was reasonable, I LOVE the products, AND because I'm selling them I can get a discount for my products! yeah me! SO...if you have heard of AdvoCare but thought it too pricey to try; let me know and I will send you a sample of a product so you can try before you buy. Current samples on hand are...

   

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